Love is a powerful force that has consistently shaped humanity’s history and continues to impact our lives today. At its core, love is a commitment to another human being, an expression of one’s love for that person, an act of devotion. Although love is often associated with religious beliefs, it is a life-generating experience for many people. However, it is also a broad concept that encompasses various experiences. People tend to love not only in relation to romantic love, but also in their daily interactions.
In romantic love, as in all forms of affection, there is an emphasis on love as a feeling rather than an act. In this form, we come to appreciate the power of sharing physical closeness without any consideration of affection or romance. Love is about emotion, not lust. The best way to express love is to feel it and communicate it. If you want to convey your affection for another person, use words and actions to evoke feelings of passion, love, and desire rather than simply reaching out and touching.
Romantic love is based on passion and is often described in terms of “spark” or “fire”. It’s about falling in love at first sight or “falls” into love at first meeting. This is similar to “falls in love with a new classmate in high school”. The common thread is that you are experiencing genuine, intense, and unadulterated passion in your thoughts, feelings, words and actions toward your partner.
Appreciation is a vital ingredient of true love. This type of love means putting into words what feel with your heart. For example, when I am happy and appreciative, I express this to my partner. Successful people learn to say yes to requests made of them by others. When they feel that someone needs their help, they willingly give that assistance because saying no would indicate that they have not learned to put their happiness ahead of their career.
Expressing love requires more than saying yes or not. You also must listen intently to the words, feelings, and actions of the other person. In order to truly understand another person’s needs, you must hear what they are telling you. If you respond to their request in the manner that they request, you will likely only upset them. On the other hand, if you respond with an apology or expressing deep appreciation for the request made, you will likely be loved and respected. Even when the request isn’t in line with your core values and principles, expressing gratitude or appreciation will almost always be received favorably by the other person.
Whether you are involved in a long term romantic relationship or are just starting out, it is important to understand the different components that make up long term affection. These components include physical, emotional, and verbal love. Once you learn how to express all three components of love in your interactions with others, you will find that you are much happier in your relationships and it will be much easier to make love with another person.