When you are looking for love, you need to start with yourself. To really understand the love you have to be able to define it. Love encompasses a broad range of positive and strong emotional and physical states, from the strongest, intimate emotion, friendship, to the easiest basic joy. It is more complicated than this but I will address just the essence of love here.
The first feeling that people experience when they are in a loving relationship is happiness. Happiness is a very important feeling to have in a relationship. You may ask what does love mean? Love is always relational. When you are in a healthy relationship you are meeting and understanding your partner’s needs. This means you share and make your partner feel needed without being needy.
Love also includes affection and displays of affection. This can be verbal or visual, but it often involves the physical touch of either the person receiving the affection or the one giving the affection. Some people are so wrapped up in their own emotions that they fail to show their affection in real time. This can cause some major problems in a relationship, where one partner begins to feel unloved and depressed, while the other feels overloaded and depressed.
The second feeling that people have when in a loving relationship is affection. When you are in a healthy relationship you will have genuine feelings for your partner and you will be open to expressing those feelings. You may need to learn a new love language. However, most people will be perfectly content in expressing their love through visual and verbal expression. It will not be a problem. Most people can communicate their love quite well.
The third feeling is enjoyment. This is the most powerful feeling in any relationship and can even be called a feeling of satisfaction. Enjoyment is very important as well. This feeling is what you get when you feel loved and when you are doing something that you enjoy. This feeling can also be felt when you are with someone who makes you laugh, makes you feel special, makes you feel inspired, or simply appreciates you. When you have a healthy level of enjoyment in your relationship, you will find that you are more likely to remain true to your partner and will be much more willing to compromise.
The last feeling that you will experience if you have a loving relationship is commitment. This feeling is similar to fulfillment. When you have a commitment, you know that you are doing the right thing. You may want to take this a step further and start your own family. However, you may just want to enjoy the relationship that you have. If this is the case, then the quality time that you spend together is going to be the foundation for a great relationship.