Whether it’s the bond with family, the camaraderie with friends or the butterflies of romantic feelings, love enriches our lives. It provides support through tough times and requires care and understanding to thrive. And, like many emotions, it’s largely caused by chemical reactions in the brain.
But is that all there is to it? Some scientists argue that love is just another secondary emotion, like happiness or anger. Others maintain that it’s a fundamental human need.
It’s a complicated question, with no easy answers. The definition of love varies by culture and circumstance. For some, it’s a mutual feeling of respect and affection for one another, based on trust. For others, it’s a deep commitment and acceptance of one another’s flaws. For still others, it’s the experience of a sense of meaning and purpose in life.
In the end, though, what’s important is that you find a way to love and be loved by yourself. And that you’re deserving of love in the ways that matter most to you.
For example, if a person’s love language is physical touch, they will appreciate hugs, holding hands, being held or having their back rubbed. Similarly, if they value connection, you can show them your love through activities such as picnics, coffee dates, a walk or workout together and regular phone calls. You might even consider getting them a card or gift to let them know you’re thinking of them. This article was originally published on Deakin Univesity Real Wellbeing.